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    Secrecy in intimate relationships: rethinking transparency and deceit in monogamies and non-monogamies

    Klesse, Christian ORCID logoORCID: https://orcid.org/0000-0001-7439-2623 and van Hooff, Jenny ORCID logoORCID: https://orcid.org/0000-0001-8735-8758 (2024) Secrecy in intimate relationships: rethinking transparency and deceit in monogamies and non-monogamies. The Sociological Review. ISSN 0038-0261

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    Abstract

    This article foregrounds the role of secrets in creating, maintaining and disrupting intimacy. We extend sociological theorising on secrecy by demonstrating the operative role of secrets, across the entire relational spectrum within the non/monogamy system. The focus on non/monogamy is particularly revealing, as questions about secrecy and deceit are intensely charged with moral meanings. Ultimately, we argue that secrecy is an integral and constitutive part of intimate practice. Building on Simmel’s work on deceit and lying, and its recent adaptations within the sociology of secrecy and critical theory, we assert that practices of secrecy should be central to the study of intimacy and the sociology of personal life. The distinction between consensual non-monogamy (e.g. polyamory) and non-consensual non-monogamy (such as affairs) tends to focus on mutual disclosure and transparency as key markers of difference. We take an important step in challenging the dichotomy of secrecy and transparency, showing that strategies of secrecy are implicated in the production of both monogamies or non-monogamies, whether consensual or not.

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